The Meaty Ginger is a perfect gentleman. Prior to our date, he actually used his fingers to DIAL my number and we had voice on voice conversation. It took me by surprise! When has this happened to you lately? Definitely a nice touch and major brownie points for The MG. After 19 minutes of real live conversation, we decided a quick intro meeting would be best, and he even offered to meet me at a coffee shop right near my place.
My first thoughts; although he's a huge Chatty Cathy, this helped the the conversation go smoothly and effortlessly. It was almost as though I was talking with a long time friend. As the minutes went on, I noticed there was something remarkable about his voice. It was a little too.... pretty? I didn't want to say it, I didn't want to think it, but I couldn't help it: is he, could he be, a chance he may be... gay? I wish I had passed the phone to The Roommate so she can hear it for herself. Either way, I agreed with the date anyway, and hoped it was just the infrared cellphone waves affecting his vocal cords. Work with me here.
When we met up, he looked exactly the way he did in his online profile pictures (no imposters here). He was absolutely witty and carried it with confidence. We kept up with each others sarcasm in a comedy sitcom kind of way. He offered to buy me my $1 small promo latte, which clearly means he’s not afraid to spend the big dollahs. He asked the right questions and said the right things. In other words, it was a great first date! We hung out for just over two hours, and I didn’t even feel the time go by.
Unfortunately, all the while, I couldn't fully concentrate because I was having a legit full blown debate between the left and right side of my brain:
Right: "He's not gay...he's just got A LOT of female friends. And no real mention of any male friends......"
Left: "Oh, yup, no male friends? It's SO obvious that he is gay."
Right: "Wait. Did he just mention a fantasy football pool? He's straight for sure then!!"
Left: "Shit, was that a squeal? Checkmate."
And my gaydar blew up into flames.
His overly blatant hand gestures didn't help my right brain's debate either. Just to be clear, I love the gay community! But if I'm going to start to like someone, I'd prefer he be looking into my eyes for love, and not looking into my eyes to love my eye makeup, you know? Although, I don't think The Meaty Ginger will be jumping out of the closet in leather chaps any time soon. When he talks about his hockey beer league, I think "he's such a man!" But when he talks about how his female roommate met a pro hockey player at a bar once and the sheer excitement/shrill in his voice when he told her "tell me you fucked him... I tooooootally would have!!" This. Remains. Questionable. Like, why choose to tell me that part of the story?
I think I'm just as confused as he is. But the date went so well that I'm debating on giving it another go...what do you think? I mean I'm pretty desperate to find a match, but to date a potentially gay guy? I'm not that desperate... Am I?
La Blonde xx